The Best

What does it even mean to be “the best” when life is multidimensional, subjective, and constantly changing? In this episode, we unpack the ways our obsession with bestness feeds perfectionism and self-criticism—and how redefining “best” for yourself can make room for more play, resilience, connection, and actual enjoyment.

Along the way: climbing, yoga, Michelin stars, Conan the Barbarian, failure as a practice, and the possibility that even an experience you absolutely did not want may contain something worth finding.

What does “best” mean to you? Tell us at deleteyourdefaults@gmail.com.

Correction from the future: Boston does, in fact, have a Michelin star now. The Guide arrived in 2025, and 311 Omakase received the city's first. Our tire-company slander otherwise stands.