Delete Your Defaults

A show about hacking our social autopilot.

Get off of society’s rails, and come into full contact with life.

Aaron Bieber & Rosa Carson

Aaron Bieber & Rosa Carson

Latest Episode

Curiosity

Posted on Wednesday, Dec 24, 2025

In this episode we explore curiosity as a way of being, as a practice that softens defensiveness, loosens certainty, and reopens the doors your nervous system has been calling “walls.”

Perfectionism

Posted on Wednesday, Dec 10, 2025

In this episode, we pull apart “perfection” from multiple angles: the rigid, human version that freezes us in place, and the spacious, spiritual sense that everything is already perfect as it is.

Incentives

Posted on Wednesday, Nov 26, 2025

In this episode, we look under the hood of incentives—the seen and unseen forces that quietly steer our choices.

Expectations

Posted on Wednesday, Nov 12, 2025

In this episode, we unpack the slippery power of expectations—how they can motivate, manipulate, cheer or demotivate.

Discomfort

Posted on Wednesday, Oct 29, 2025

What if discomfort isn’t something to avoid—but an invitation into expansion, aliveness, and self-trust?

Communication

Posted on Wednesday, Oct 15, 2025

In this episode, Rosa and Aaron unpack why most “communication” isn’t—yet.

Full contact living

Posted on Wednesday, Oct 1, 2025

If you’re ready for friendships (and a life) that can hold truth, tenderness, and growth—this one’s for you.

Feeling(s)

Posted on Wednesday, Sep 10, 2025

For all that we live in a world that pretends we’re rational beings doing rational things, feelings drive everything in our lives, or block everything. Developing the skill of feeling our feelings, allowing them to move, expressing them healthily determines the quality of our relationships, our creative output, our work product, and so much more.

Vulnerability

Posted on Monday, Aug 25, 2025

This episode explores vulnerability as the core to full contact living, how avoiding vulnerability is a way of trying to be in control and stay safe. But what is safety? Protecting ourselves from life means protecting ourselves from living.

Authenticity

Posted on Wednesday, Jul 30, 2025

People are craving authenticity more and more—both expressing it and being around others who are embodying it. We explore our own challenges to being authentically self-expressed and our experiences getting in touch with it.